I didn’t expect to feel so old so early. 41 isn’t that old, right? But when I reached the Big 4-0, learned that I have Ostheoarthritis, rheumatoid arthritis, diabetes, and hyperuricemia. With my pre-existing bipolar depression and anxiety disorders, I’m having problems coping with the new illnesses. I don’t want to go take another lab test for fear that the doctors will inform me that there are more.

For the past couple of months, I’ve been having difficulties walking. I wake up in the middle of the night because my knees throb in pain. When I do go out and know that I have a lot of walking to do, I have to wear leg braces and people stare at me, probably thinking that since I’m obese, I brought it on myself. The knee pains also meant that I had to say goodbye to Burlesque PH because how can I dance in this state? Lately I’ve been thinking of not traveling anymore because the thought of doing tours dishearten me. Maybe I’ll travel for the last time this year. Unless I find a miracle cure for the pain.

In my family home, I have trouble climbing the stairs but my bedroom is on the second floor. It’s becoming more often that I stay at our condo where there are no stairs and I am alone. But I don’t have cats there so I get lonely.

I know I’m still lucky. I don’t have a really scary illness (at least none that I know of) but curveball after curveball that life throws at me is very exhausting. I want to throw in the towel. It’s not just the illness. It’s being alone with no prospect of marriage nor even a date, the feeling that my friends are getting further from me, that despite going to a good school I amounted to nothing, etc etc. I can only blame myself.

I really wish we have the right to choose how and when we can die. At least with that I know it’s something I can control and I will have dignity in death instead of just wasting away like this.

3 Comments on Bleak

  1. Me
    July 2, 2019 at 12:21 PM (2 years ago)

    You really still have it good. Several years ago I was admitted into the basement of medical city but I couldn’t continue with my treatment after my release because of lack of funds. I can’t die because I have people relying on me so I trudge on even if it gets so painful. I use faith and positive thinking, not out of choice but because I don’t have any other options. It’s working, I guess, cause I’m still here.

    • Karen Ang
      July 21, 2019 at 5:04 PM (2 years ago)

      I’m at the point where I don’t want treatment anymore.

    • Karen Ang
      November 20, 2019 at 2:40 AM (2 years ago)

      I hope you are aware that comparing our experiences belittles my own struggles with the disease.


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